Keeping Summer Fun With Babies

The sun is shining and the weather has turned warmer. It's a fun time to get out and about with your little one and explore the world around you. For many babies, this may be their first time being exposed to a more significant amount of sunshine. With simple tips and tricks, you can make summertime fun and safe for your babe.

Stick to the Shade

Keeping sensitive skin out of direct sun exposure is vital, particularly for babies under 6 months old who cannot wear sunscreen yet. Stick to shady areas or create your own shade. If you're at the park or the beach, using a pop-up shade tent allows them to be a part of the action while staying out of the direct sun. Better yet, keep the whole crew sun safe and use a larger canopy cabana cover. The sun is at its strongest between the hours of 10 am and 2 pm, so avoiding those hours outdoors is also a great way to keep protected.

BabyMoov $60, Glymnis $30, Amsun $90

Wearing UV-protective clothing and sunglasses is another great way to protect babies from the harm of UV damage. Covering the area with a thin, UV-specific protective barrier can help keep them safe whether in the direct sun or shade. With so many cute options, from swimwear to clothing, there's no reason not to wear sun protection. (P.S. There are lots of grown-up styles as well!)

Monica + Andy one-piece swimsuit $30, Monica + Andy sunhat $18

Patagonia Silkweight hoodie $45, Patagonia baby sunhat $39

Coolibar baby swim set $30-45, Coolibar baby bucket hat $20-30

Hipster Kid sunglasses $24, Babiator sunglasses $32

Sunscreen Like You Mean It

Using a mineral-based, broad-spectrum sunscreen has been shown to be an effective option for sun protection for everyone over the age of 6 months. Under 6 months of age, sunscreen is not recommended. Stick to protective clothing, shade, and sun avoidance for the youngest of babes. Mineral-based sunscreens typically have either zinc oxide or titanium dioxide as the lead ingredient. I prefer unscented sunscreens to reduce irritation risk on sensitive skin. Even as an adult, I use unscented sunscreen. Formulations may vary between baby and kid's versions of sunscreens as baby skin is more sensitive. I typically recommend the baby version for under 2 years of age and then do a patch test above age two to test for irritation before slathering it on your toddler.

The recommended amount of sunscreen to use for a baby or toddler is half of a shot glass amount, about ½ ounce. For adults, use a full ounce at least. Apply liberally and often, particularly after swimming or activity. Most baby sunscreens come in high SPF ratings, usually 50+. Sunscreen with a high SPF should still be reapplied frequently. As tempting as spray and stick sunscreens are, it is most recommended to use a cream sunscreen to get the most coverage. I like to use a makeup brush or sponge to make the application more manageable as it is more tolerated by little ones and makes the application smoother. For bigger toddlers and kids, they may even enjoy applying it on themselves. Just be mindful to keep it out of eyes and mouths. And don't forget to get in the baby rolls, creases between fingers and toes, ears, bottoms of feet, the back of the neck, and anywhere that clothing lines end that could roll up. For babies without hair or with fine hair, apply to their scalps as well or keep them in a protective hat.

Think Baby $18.29 (I did try the Sport version of Think Kids $20.51 and found it to have a very white cast that did not rub in, which was not ideal for us)

Sun Bum Kids Clear $17.49 This one is clear and rubs in the best of any that I tried. However, it is heavily scented like a banana. For me, that was a huge negative but for others may be desirable.

Supergoop Sunnyscreen $28. I'm a fan of Supergoop adult sunscreens for lightweight daily use. Admittedly, the Sunnyscreen is thicker and whiter than the clear adult versions.

Babo Botanical Clear Zinc $15.99 This sunscreen is clear, however, does have the lowest SPF of the listed sunscreens at SPF 30. Reapply more frequently if you chose this one.

Black Girl Sunscreen Kids $9.99 This sunscreen is specially formulated for melanin-rich skin tones and rubs in beautifully. This is my personal top pick and I purchased the grown-up version as well.

Badger Kids with clear zinc oxide $15.29 Another clear zinc option that comes highly recommended when I polled other parents.

Don't Overheat

Preventing babies and little ones from overheating is important during the warmer months. Sweat glands mature during the first two years of life and cannot function at the same level as an adult. This means that your baby's body cannot sweat like you do, thus being less effective at cooling. They are also unable to communicate that they are feeling hot or unwell like an older child may be able to. Keep babies shaded and covered, while not overly warm can feel like an impossible challenge. Stick to natural fiber materials like cotton, linen, and bamboo to help keep a lightweight covering. UPF protective clothing while exposed to sunlight can help as well. The general rule of thumb for dressing an infant, regardless of the weather, is 1 layer more than an adult. Although there's no need for a cardigan or coat when the temps are soaring! If you're in direct sun or the temperatures are high taking frequent breaks will help reduce the risk of overheating.

A common mistake that I see when trying to shade babies is covering their stroller or car seat with a blanket or swaddle. While it makes sense to create your own shade to keep them cool, it traps heat inside. This makes their stroller or car seat into a sauna and creates more risk than it reduces from sun exposure. Many stroller and car seat brands have built-in sun visors or have optional ones for purchase that allow for appropriate airflow. Some opt for an umbrella that attaches to the stroller to create shade. If traveling by car, you can purchase a window sun shade to keep bright sun off sensitive skin.

Goldflower Car Window Shade 2 pack $10.19

Safefit Baby Car Shade 2 pack $12.48

Munchkin Brica Sun Safety Shade 2 pack $14.99

Keep Hydrated

Keeping hydrated is important in warm weather for babies and adults alike. Babies under 6 months of age should not drink water as their kidneys cannot process it well. Continue to feed them their usual milk or formula, and increase as needed to maintain hydration. For babies and toddlers older than 6 months, have water handy and offer it frequently. If drinking fluids is not as exciting, you can offer juicy fruits and veggies, including purees and puree pouches for those that are eating solids. Making your own popsicles (even breastmilk ones!) can be a fun way to encourage taking in more liquids. Popsicles can also help ease teething discomfort as well as introduce new tastes in a novel way.

EZPZ Tiny Pop molds $18.99

Signs of Overheating/ Heat Rash

It's important to be aware of the signs of overheating and overexposure. Even for parents who are the most diligent, it can be so easy for a baby to overheat or develop a heat rash.

Heat rash may appear as red bumps on the skin. Areas that are more prone to heat rash are where the skin tends to fold and roll together like the neck, elbows and knees, groin area, and chest. Wipe the irritated areas with a clean, cool washcloth or give them a cool bath. Dry gently and dress them in clean clothing. Removing the sweat from the irritated skin will allow the body to readjust and clear the rash.

Notice the signs of overheating by keeping an eye out for extreme fatigue or drowsiness, loss of interest in eating or drinking, a flushed face, and excessive sweat (although as mentioned, may not be more obvious until sweat glands are more developed by age 2). If you notice signs of overheating, take your baby to a cooler location, apply cool wash clothes, or give them a cool bath. Remove sweaty clothing, wipe the skin clean of sweat, and redress in clean and dry clothing. If there are signs of extreme heat exposure such as vomiting, muscle spasms, or fast breathing, take them to the pediatrician or urgent care right away as they may need medical attention.

Summertime is a time of adventure and fun. With these simple tips and facts, you'll be able to enjoy this season with your little one safely. Happy Summer!

Travel Hacks Pt 2

Traveling with your little one(s) can leave your nerves frazzled, and your body sweat-drenched. Hello, car seat installation with a wriggly toddler by your side. I’ve traveled, solo and with my husband, with my kiddo plenty of times to get a few travel hacks down to a science. These are tried and tested by me and are sure to reduce travel anxiety. 

Gear is the key to making travel smoother. Before you begin packing for your trip, ensure that suitcase wheels roll properly, bags zip easily, strollers close smoothly, and you have all of the big and little things that you’ll need during your travels on hand. 

Travel Stroller

My favorite travel stroller is the Colugo Compact ($295). It has a lower price point than most of its competitors. It comes with its own carry backpack and accessories. The Colugo Compact boasts a one-handed open/close and plenty of basket storage underneath. The Colugo has an optional infant bassinet add-on ($95) but does not have the option for a kickboard for a second child or car seat adapters. This is my personal stroller that has traveled to numerous places as well as handled daily outings in NYC. The Joolz Aer ($449) has a similar design to the Colugo, with roomy underneath storage, a single-handed close, and a smooth ride. The Joolz also comes with accessories and a travel bag. The Joolz Aer has an optional infant bassinet add-on ($219) and car seat adapters ($45) but does not have optional accessories for a second child. Both of these strollers fold to fit into most overhead bins. Pair your travel stroller with a set of OXO Stroller Hooks ($17) to hang bags off of, and you’ve instantly boosted its storage capacity. 

If you’re looking for a compact stroller with options for a 2nd child, look at the Babyzen Yo-yo ($449). This stroller is wildly popular, however, doesn’t make my faves list due to the need to have a two-handed close. It does have optional accessories such as a newborn bassinet ($180), kickboard seat ($125), and infant car seat adapters ($55). 

If you’re traveling with a baby and a toddler, you may prefer to bring your larger stroller if you’ll need it at your destination. In this case, I highly recommend putting your stroller in a travel bag designed to fit your stroller model and gate-checking it. Please note that anything that does get checked does run the risk of being damaged. For valuable strollers, I suggest a padded bag from the stroller manufacturer. 

Car Seat

Some people prefer to have their little ones fly in their own car seats, while others do not. A great lightweight car seat for toddlers in the Cosco Scenera Next and Finale (both $60). These car seats are inexpensive, lightweight, and easy to travel with. They install quickly into rental cars and taxis using the vehicle seat belt (the Finale does need to have the top tether for proper installation). When we used the Cosco Scenera, I would either attach it to the stroller with hooks or into the seat using the luggage strap hack (see here). The Finale is a bit larger for these hacks and I have not attempted them personally. For airport travel, I personally have always checked our car seats at the counter using this large travel bag ($50) on wheels. (I secretly add extra items in here since the car seats themselves are so lightweight that a few extra pounds in diapers/ wipes/ toys usually aren’t noticed. Note that this isn’t allowed but have only ever had someone check once and I have to remove the items and place them in our checked luggage). If you’d like to take your car seats onboard with you, a car seat trolley ($74) may be more your speed to wheel it through the airport. I’ve even seen toddlers being wheeled around this way, which is really helpful when they’ve fallen asleep or just can’t walk anymore. If you don’t need a stroller at your destination, this might be a reasonable option for airport travel. 

Now that my son is a bit older, we started to use the WayB Pico ($380) for a lightweight but secure 5-point restraint car seat. The WayB Pico folds up to be very compact and has several carry bag options, with my preference being the backpack ($80) that can slide onto my checked suitcase handle. The WayB Pico installs quickly and easily into vehicles using the LATCH system and top tether. It is suitable for ages 2+, with exact weight/ height specifications available on their website. 

Carriers

Oh, how I love a baby carrier. I baby-wore my son until he was so tall that his feet knocked my knees. It makes life so much easier, and hands-free, and they feel safe and secure as they are snuggled up next to you. I remember breezing through security with my son in a carrier, a backpack, and our Colugo stroller. The mom in front of me was struggling with her bulky stroller, a diaper bag, and a baby in her arms. She remarked about how envious she was of how easy I got through. Want to read more about baby carriers? Read here.

Using a soft structured buckle carrier provides you with back support for walking countless steps through the airport. Some even have extra pockets to store your phone, boarding pass, lip balm, or any other small items you need within arm's reach. I’ve owned many carriers and personally always reached for my Tula Free To Grow ($179) the most frequently. It can fold up nice and small to fit in your diaper bag when not in use. The Colugo Carrier ($149) is another nice option that doesn’t require double-jointed shoulders to get on. IYKYK

Now, I’m a bit extra when it comes to babywearing. I love to bring a ring sling for onboard a flight. I find it more comfortable to sit down while holding a baby and it also makes for an easy adjustment when the baby inevitably falls asleep. You can loosen the ring to create a hammock-like hold while still supporting them without your arms. The extra tail can also create either a cushion beneath their head or a cover to block out excess light. It is remarkably easy to breastfeed in a ring sling while providing a built-in cover. I wasn’t one for covering while breastfeeding but did feel more comfortable in flight to be slightly more covered. 

A final, and major, tip for babywearing: Do NOT under any circumstances wear a jumpsuit or other one-piece outfit. Your bladder will get full precisely as your baby has fallen into a deep slumber. You’ll be trapped. If you’ve been a sensible person in pants and a separate top, you can still go to the bathroom while the baby remains asleep in the carrier. Don’t learn the hard way like me. 

Overall

Preparation and organization will save you headaches while traveling with little ones. Test it out at home before you hit the road to ensure that you can handle the load. Outsource wherever you can and don’t be afraid to ask for help. Flight attendants and friendly seatmates can assist you in getting luggage into overhead bins or watching your toddler while you go to the bathroom or change a baby’s diaper (in the bathroom only please, never in your seat). 

Have the right items that will serve you, your littles, and your peace of mind. The adventures and memories are all worth those sweaty moments of making it all happen. Happy travels! 

*some links are affiliate links where I may earn a small commission at no expense to you. I greatly appreciate you shopping with my links!*

Gear Listed In Post:

Cosco Scenera Next Car Seat $60

Cosco Finale Car Seat $60

WayB Pico $380

WayB Pico Backpack $80

Colugo Compact Stroller $295

Colugo Compact Bassinet $95

Joolz Aer travel stroller $449

Joolz Aer Bassinet $219

Joolz Aer Car Seat Adapters $45

OXO Stroller Hooks $17

J.L Childress Car Seat Bag with wheels $50

Car Seat trolley $74 

WayB Pico Backpack $80

Colugo Baby Carrier $145

Tula Free to Grow Baby Carrier $179

Black Maternal Health: Causes, Impact, and Solutions

Black Maternal Mortality

CAUSES, IMPACT, AND SOLUTIONS

Giving birth ranks high on the list of concerns for a majority of American women and that fear grows with the sharing of negative birth stories. Admittedly, the fear around birth can be justified because there is so much uncertainty and unpredictability inherent to the birth process alone. But, if I were to give just one doula tip, I would suggest working with a supportive care team that takes the time to listen and support you throughout your journey. Working with perinatal therapists and coaches can also assist you in working through your fears, concerns, and prenatal planning. Birth does not have to be scary!  

IMPACT:

The United States ranks at the bottom of the top 10 industrialized countries in the world for maternal mortality and 55th globally. For Non-White Hispanic birthing people, the risk of death is 2-3 times that of white people. For Black birthing people, the already abysmal rate gets worse. Black birthing people are 3-4 times more likely to die of maternal-related causes in the first year after pregnancy. In New York City, where I live, it skyrockets to 12 times.

Fear of dying in childbirth is a very real concern for many Black birthing people. Risk of pre-eclampsia/eclampsia, cardiomyopathy, hemorrhage, and embolism increase significantly for Black people in pregnancy and postpartum than White people. The next common question is why? We could easily point a finger at statistics about health, access to appropriate and adequate care, higher rates of obesity and diabetes, lower incomes, but what it really comes down to is quite simple and far more dire. Racism. Social racism, historical racism, weathering on the body due to stress and long-held stereotypes of Black people. 

IMPLICIT BIAS

Implicit bias happens beyond awareness can oftentimes go against a person’s beliefs. Implicit bias can be so deep-seeded that a person has no idea how it impacts their view of the world, including decision making and clinical assessments. For Black birthing people, these unconscious biases can impact their pregnancy care, interactions with the world, and access to care and support. 

GOVERNMENT INTERVENTION

Another often overlooked but all too real concern is fear of government intervention. Black women are tested more often for illicit drugs upon admittance to a hospital for birth. They are also more likely to be reported to social services for being non-compliant or declining routine procedures. This oversight fails to recognize bodily autonomy and the right of each individual to make informed decisions for themselves regardless of medical recommendations. Once reported, the risk of having their newborns taken away goes up along with the stress of opening their lives up to scrutiny and random welfare checks.

POSTPARTUM MOOD AND ANXIETY DISORDERS

Postpartum mood and anxiety disorders (PPMADs) present at higher rates, yet often go untreated, for Black birthing people. Very real concerns about bringing a Black child into the world and the potential challenges that the child may face adds anxiety to a new parent’s mind. Black babies are less likely to reach their 1st birthday than white babies. Concerns about the ability to provide adequate clothing, food/formula, diapers, and childcare add to stress levels. Decreased access to adequate postnatal and pediatric care also increase the risk of anxiety and depression. Combine this with the normal hormonal and life changes of new parenthood and the risk of PPMADs drastically increases. Additionally, culturally competent care, the stigma around seeking care, and the ability to afford mental health support are all barriers to seeking and finding help for families. 

IMPACT ON BREASTFEEDING

Breastfeeding rates are lower, and drop sooner, for Black parents than white parents. In studies, 85% of white birthing people initiated breastfeeding at birth while 69% of Black birthing people did. Beyond birth, the rates for both groups drop. Why do Black parents breastfeed and continue to breastfeed at lower rates than white parents? They receive less support and education to encourage a successful breastfeeding relationship. There is also inadequate family leave, for all parents, in the United States, which inhibits the ability to stay home with a new baby and establish a strong breastfeeding relationship before returning back to work. From my own doula experience, the families who have not been able to afford to stay out of work for longer periods of time have struggled more to establish and maintain a breastfeeding relationship, regardless of intent. The complicated and tragic history of Black breastfeeding and wet nursing has also created lasting damage within the psyche of the Black community. Black enslaved women were forced to wet nurse white babies, while their own babies suffered and died from malnourishment. Black enslaved women were not allowed to care for and bond with their children for generations, while simultaneously nurturing white children. How could such history not have a lasting impact?

SOLUTIONS:

If you’ve made it this far in reading, you may be feeling overwhelmed. It’s a lot, I know. There is no one simple solution to solve this deeply seeded problem. How can we prevent more Black people from dying from childbirth? The answer is to take action. Daily steps, big and small will make a lasting change for yourself, your community, and the country as a whole. Get involved, speak up, fund organizations and individuals involved in improvement, support Black birth workers, and write to government officials to enact change. 

Support grassroots movements who are on the ground making changes. Some incredible Black women making strides to improve maternal health and wellbeing are Kimberly Seals Aller, Rachel Nicks, Latham Thomas, and midwife Jennie Joseph. Each is actively educating, fundraising, and supporting Black birthing people. Kimberly Seals Aller is a birth worker who founded the Irth App as a way to connect Black families with knowledgeable providers within their communities. Like Yelp but specifically for pregnancy, birth, and postpartum. Rachel Nicks is a fitness trainer, doula, actor, and mother who founded the nonprofit Birth Queen to raise funds for education for Black midwives, doulas, and lactation consultants to empower Black families. Latham Thomas is a doula, yoga teacher, and founder of Mama Glow. She partnered with Carol’s Daughter in founding Love Delivered to educate, fund, and provide doulas for Black birthing families. 

I’ve provided a list of resources in various categories that can help you find support or get involved in making lasting and real changes. 

RESOURCES:

Black Care Providers

Irth App

National Black Doulas Association

Diaper need

Believe Diapers

National Diaper Bank Network

BxRebirth (Bronx, NY specific)

Formula need

Local WIC office

Speak to your pediatrician, they may have access to formula assistance

Therapy

Therapy for Black Girls

Melanin and Mental Health

Support Funding for more Black Birth Workers

Birth Queen

National Association to Advance Black Birth

Mama Glow Foundation

Actionable Change

Support the Momnibus Act

Black Mamas Matter

4Kira4Moms

Save A Rose Foundation

Birth Queen and Eradicating the Black Maternal Health Crisis

My dear friend, Rachel Nicks, is a woman of many talents. She’s an incredible friend who seemingly does it all and still has time to chat with her girlfriends while also taking on the world (quite literally). She is a mother of 2 boys, a trainer for The Mirror, an actress, doula, childbirth educator, and founder of the nonprofit Birth Queen. Rachel is passionate about improving birth outcomes for Black birthing people and eradicating the health crisis that so deeply impacts far too many families.

For Black birthing people, the maternal mortality rate is 3-4x that of their white counterparts, and in NYC that number skyrockets to 12x.

Rachel gave an impassioned and informative speech at the Concordia Summit in NY this week. I was so deeply moved by her speech that I have to share it here with all of you.

Watch. Listen. Learn. Act.

PreSchool Crazie

Oh the PreK crazies of NYC. Have you heard of it? Have you done it? It’s not for the faint of heart. I swore I was never going to get into the circus of all that is involved (refreshing your browser the moment apps become available online, calling, asking friends and acquaintances for letters of recommendation, writing essays, 2 year olds being interviewed) and yet here I am. Knee deep in applications, deadlines and essay writing. 

The deadlines have now passed for private school applications in NYC but in true mom fashion I got mine in just barely on time (ok a little late). I was in a panic and messaging my mom group of friends in need of help when one suggested I reach out to Admit NY. Their entire business is coaching families through the admissions process. I know what you’re thinking “I don’t need someone to coach me! C’mon how hard could this be?”. I thought that too. And boy was I wrong. Each school has a slightly different approach to the process. And that’s once you’ve actually decided which schools to apply to! In the current climate when you can’t actually tour schools you truly do need someone with intimate knowledge of the schools, their facilities and their philosohophy. As well as what are the best choices for your child, your family and your longer term goals. Overwhelmed yet? Yeah, it’s A LOT. I used to think it was absolute insanity to stress about string your 3 year old into the “right” school for fear of ruining their entire academic future. But you know what? It’s actually something to think about. Not so much about the right preschool will ensure they get into Harvard but more about finding a place where they thrive and grow their imaginations, their curiosity and love of learning as well as socialization. From a parenting perspective, it’s also important to me to find a community that will embrace and nurture my journey as well. It’s a whole family choice. 

Admit NY does just that. They want to know you and your child and to help you find the best place- private or public. I spoke with Whitney and Taryn, the founding duo behind Admit NY and instantly realized that they are admissions doulas.  It clicked. That’s my goal as a doula too- to guide families agenda free to the choices that are right for them. And that’s what Admit NY does! They were both so warm and easy to talk to. I kept picturing them in my doula role, giving out encouraging words of support at just the right moment and having a stack of resources at the ready for those tough questions. Admit NY knows the ins and outs of the process, the questions you didn’t know you had or to ask as well as what schools may be the best fit for your family. I personally hadn’t even thought of my long term goal for Baby P in terms of school and how certain choices I make now can impact that.
They got me considering whether private PreK, and which ones, would lead us to the path we envision next for our kiddo. They’ve even created new packages to help you navigate school decisions during the time of a global pandemic. Honestly the school that was last on my list was because we had not seen it in person but after speaking with them have moved it up my wish list. ((Fingers crossed)).

Admit NY can support you, just like a doula, with as much or as little help as you need. Not sure what to include in an essay? Just ask! Need help formulating follow up emails? Got into your top choice and need to write acceptance and rejection letters? They got you. From PreK- grade 12, public and private, Admit NY can help guide you agenda and STRESS free (ok maybe not totally stress free but certainly far more confident). My only regret is not working with them sooner. Don’t be like me and get on this process far earlier than you think. Because just like having a baby, the time to research is not when you’re in labor! 

Toddler Christmas Wish List

The holidays are upon us! I don’t know about you but I’m going ALL OUT this year. Maybe because it’s a global pandemic and 2020 has been weird AF or maybe it’s because Baby P is now 2 1/2 years old and has an understanding of holidays and celebrations. He’s already watching Christmas movies and knows about Santa (vaguely. I’m still figuring out how we are going to handle the idea of Santa and straight-up lying about this mythical guy. Send me your tips ;) ) I’m trying to be mindful of our consumption while also making an impact with each gift. Since we will be spending much more time indoors this winter you’ll find some physical movement ideas. We already have a slide and trampoline (we have a different trampoline that was handed down to us but linked to another kid-friendly on here) and LOVE them. Baby P is OBSESSED with dinosaurs so you’ll find a lot of dino-themed gifts as well. I’ve heard that construction vehicles are the next phase but we haven’t reached that yet.

You’ll also notice several wooden toys. We don’t practice specifically any approach to parenting/ education like Waldorf, Montesorri, or Reggio Emilia but I am familiar with them and do appreciate various aspects of their approach. We have the Lovevery subscription box (0-36 months currently) and absolutely love it. If you want a one-stop shop gift this is it. Email me for a $30 discount code off of a new subscription or to ask more questions.

Puzzles

Secret Garden Floor Puzzle $23

Transportation Long Puzzle $17

Toys

Magnatiles $59

These cult classics are a must for growing imaginations. Available at local Brooklyn store, 2 Kids and a Dog

Insect Explorer Kit $39

Young, Wild and Friedman has a great selection of sensory bin kits making it easy to curate a fun and hands on experience for your little one.

Warhol Purple Soup Can Crayons $13

Pop Art made practical. And purple is our favorite color ;)

Tech

Osmo Starter Kit $79+

Turn your tablet into a more educational, yet still fun, tool. I keep hearing rave reviews about Osmo and can’t wait to check this out.

Books

Real Jungle Tales by Jesse Byrd $15

Jesse’s tales are engaging and fun for kids and adults alike. We are already huge fans of Sunny Days and can’t wait to check out his latest book.

I Am That Kid $18

Local mom of 3, Natasha D’Anna’s 2nd book

Let’s Get Physical

Indoor Play Gym $350

We just got this. Under no circumstances should you make the same mistake. DO NOT BUY!! I’m keeping it up as a warning and review in case you are lured by the idea of a work out kid.

Play Kitchen

Ikea Duktig Play Kitchen $89

Similar in style as the Janod at a slightly lower price point. Ikea also carries a great assortment of play kitchen utensils (I also love using real kitchen items for play as well plus they double when I need them in the kitchen as well!)

Clothing

Friends Romper in 100% Wool $87

Sustainable, cute and WARM! For the chilly park days.

Star Print Sweatshirt and Pants $18 each

Atlas Floor Puzzle $21

Discover the world while improving memory and dexterity. Puzzles are life in our home

Wooden Cave Play $124

Use code DOULIGHTNYC for 15% off entire Poppy Baby Co site

Miniland Doll $20

These anatomically correct dolls come in a range of ethnicities and encourage kids to engage in nurturing play

Carry Along Tiger Sketchbook $18

There are so many books that we love, this is not an exhaustive list by any means. Reading every day is so important for language and cognitive development.

Franklin and Luna and the Book of Fairy Tales $18

Kamala and Maya’s Big Idea $14.50

8 Piece Big Block Set $100

Build, tumble, stack, climb. See above for indoor home gym

Janod Play Kitchen $126

Play at this age is very concrete so practical tasks are where they grow and learn how to interact with the world around them.

Silk Wool Balaclava $32

Lightweight but warm. We have this in gold already and wore it every day of winter last year. Loving this blue shade. Come in a neck tube and hat in adult sizes too. Twinning is winning!

Winter Berries Overall $78

Festive print. Also available in a matching jacket

Djeco Elephant Puzzle $13

We have this brand in the tiger shape already and it’s a huge hit

Rainbow Wooden Nesting Dolls $13

Explore color, size and dexterity with these simple yet fun dolls

Unicorn Crystal Terrarium $20

Making science fun and colorful! My son digs “magical unicorns” and I think he would get a kick out of this!

Dinosaur Dig Kit $20

For the dinosaur obsessed kiddo. Get hands on and a little bit dirty as they dig out fossils and learn about dinosaurs

The Big Book of the Blue $20

Discover the deep blue sea and oceanic life

Smithsonian The Dinosaur Book $18

Delve deeper into prehistoric life with this graphic book

Ikea Tumbling Mat $30

Soften the ground beneath your rough and tumble kiddo with this soft, soothing palette.

Space Kitchen Utensils $28

Playful and practical. Have a little one who’s into space? These will make kitchen play all the more fun!

Tovla Kid Safe Knives $14

Getting little kids involved in the kitchen can be fun (and require a lot of patience and supervision). My LO has been interested in helping out as I prepare dinner and these safety knives can allow him to get more involved, safely

Non Slip Wool Ankle Socks $15

You need these. Trust me. We have these and will be getting another pair. Chilly days but socks are too slippery and slippers to clumsy for active kids. Plus they are sustainably made with 80% superwash wool.

Merrell Moc Sneaker $50

Slip on winter ready shoes for all of your outdoor adventures. Buy from Jenzy and they will help you find the perfect fit for your kiddo. Because they grow so darn fast it’s hard to keep up!

Ugg Rennon High Top $55

Keep their toes warm on their adventures

---

Favorite Small Businesses

During these uncertain times, I find it far more important to support those small business that we love and who may be struggling during the pandemic. As easy as it is to shop from big box retailers, please consider purchasing from your local toy shops and businesses. Many are offering deals, free or discounted shipping and gift wrapping. I’ve listed a few of my favorite small businesses below, and have included them in the above wish list as well.

Hank And Sylvie’s: Located in Ketchum, Idaho (my hometown) this sweet little shop has everything from baby gifts, toys, party supplies and home goods. They are offering free shipping on orders over $25

2 Kids And A Dog: Located in Brooklyn, NY they offer same day local delivery as well as curated gift selection via text and email

AV Norden: Located just over the river in NJ this shop offers sustainable and ethically produced clothing for kids and women. Email Jenny for private shopping appointments online and in person.

The Wild: Located in Greenpoint, Brooklyn this shop is the baby wearing mecca in NYC. Not only do they offer customized baby wearing fittings and advice but they have a wonder array of baby and kid’s clothing and nontoxic toys as well as a beautiful offering of classes and support groups.

Poppy Baby Co : Mom owned business based in the US, offering unique, handmade, nontoxic wooden toys mostly from Russia. Use Code DOULIGHTNYC for 15% the online shop

Young, Wild and Friedman: Curated sensory bins created by a mama who started out to help her own child with a speech disorder.

---

*Amazon links are affiliate links. I do make a small commission if purchased through my link at no cost to you. I appreciate you using them but of course you are under no obligation to do so.

Taking Great Family Photos

Photo by Theresa Balderas

Photo by: Michelle Rose

Photo by: Kirsten Schultz

Photo by Kirsten Schultz

Photo by: Grace + Salt

Photo by: Michelle Rose

It’s holiday card season! And many families want to capture that perfect moment with their new baby. But unless you’re a seasoned veteran in front of the camera, it can feel intimidating. I’ve gathered a few tips to help make a shoot feel more approachable.

Hire a Pro: Often times people skimp here and think that their IPhone can take a good enough photo. Trust me, it doesn’t. A self timer won’t be able to capture the moments the way a trained professional can. I had to talk my husband in hiring a photographer for our elopement and in the end he was so happy that we did! So just like your wedding, your first weeks/ months with your newborn won’t be repeated and will fly by in a (poop filled) blur.

When looking for the right photographer for you, I recommend asking around for suggestions. Friends and family may know someone that they have shot with. Check out their portfolio of work and see if their style fits with what you have in mind. I personally prefer a photojournalist style over more staged portraits when shooting with my family because they feel more at ease, leading to better photos!.

Create a theme or style. This can be accomplished with a color palette that compliments the backdrop or if you’re like me and love a matching family outfit you can go that route too. I dressed my entire extended family in matching pajamas for a shoot. They laughed at first but loved it later! (We did shoot in regular clothes too.) For a color palette theme you can mix and match pieces within a tone rather than completely matching. This allows for diversity and visual interest in the photo. Really stuck on wardrobe? You can hire a stylist to help you out. My friend, Liz Teich, offers a virtual styling service and can shop online for you and even put the looks together.

Ask the photographer for tips: Plan ahead and have a chat with your photographer. They may have tips to share to help you feel and look your best. After all, they have done this a lot more than you have and can let you know what works and what doesn’t. Family photographers are great with little kids as well, with tips to draw out those sweet smiles snd getting them to look at the camera one of my favorites is Michelle Rose, who always has a cute monkey on her lens to keep the little engaged

Act natural! You don’t always have to stare down the barrel of the lens. Look off camera as well snd engage with your baby and family.

If you’re uncomfortable smiling, practice in the mirror ahead of time. You can practice moving your body in front of the mirror too but don’t get too caught up on posing.

Bribery

If you’re shooting with a toddler, bring a high value item to keep them engaged that doesn’t haven’t to be a treat like a lollipop (but could be!) or a favorite toy. If you have a newborn, having a noisy toy that jingles or makes music can help to get their attention. Have the photographer or other parent it or near or behind the photographer to get them looking up! If you’re shooting your toddler, don’t promise the bribe if you’re not ready to hand it over! I made the mistake of bringing a balloon but he didn’t get it right away and tears ensued!

Have fun, smile and share any tips you pick up along the way!

Acupuncture For Stress And Anxiety

Prenatally I received acupuncture regularly to manage the physical and emotional changes that happen with pregnancy.

Gabriel Sher, acupuncturist and one cool dude. Contact him to schedule your session (very Covid safe!)

Let me be frank. I’m an anxious hot mess. Not just 2020 anxious. Like the kind of anxiety where at 7 years old my mom said that I was going to give myself an ulcer. I was stressed AF. As I got older I didn’t get less anxious, probably more so (or just at least more aware of it and was able to put words to the feelings). I’ve learned coping skills over the years. Yoga and acupuncture being the main 2 that keep my anxiety in check. 

I met my acupuncturist, Gabriel Sher, about 12 years ago. I was dealing with chronic neck pain that left me unable to move my head and neck for days at a time. I was taking muscle relaxers to cope, which is against my preference for being medication free. I was also afraid of needles. But Gabriel came highly recommended by a friend. So I gave it a go. I explained what was going on and my nervousness about needles. Gabriel put me at ease and gave me options to back off if it was too much. His Flatiron office is peaceful, rarely do you see another patient. He plays soft music, the lights are dimmed or off, and he gives you a buzzer in case you need anything during your treatment. It feels more spa-like than medical. On the table, the sensation I felt during the treatment could only be described as melting. I had to open my eyes to make sure I was not indeed melting off of the table. I wasn’t. At each point of insertion, I could feel this whirling of energy. It sounds crazy, I know. But it was wildly weird and soothing. I left G’s office feeling lighter, and able to love my neck. 

I have continued to see Gabriel regularly over the last decade for various things. Mostly my crazy tense shoulders and back. These are my areas where I know I store stress. I also had some pretty serious TMJ for a while, that was only relieved again by muscle relaxers. My jaw felt like it was constantly under strain from a serious workout (pretty sure I was literally just muscling my mouth shut when I needed desperately to speak up for myself. It’s really amazing how the body will show you exactly what you’re trying to ignore). After each sesh, I would leave feeling like I could breathe and move a bit more. I felt lighter. Relaxed. These effects would last a few days to a week, depending on my stress load. 

At the start of each session, Gabriel goes over a checklist of what’s going on in my body. He addresses not just the physical ailments but the mental and emotional as well, as these are all tied together. While he treats my physical tight spots, he also treats my emotional ones as well. After a particularly challenging breakup, I sought out help from G. I wasn’t exactly sure what I was after but I just needed some calm and peace. I cried my eyes out during our session, Gabriel never flinching or feeling uncomfortable as he expertly needled specific points. Even now I seek out the emotional support of acupuncture as I journey through motherhood. If I have a moment to myself for self-care, you’ll find me at the Sher Acupuncture Center. 

I know this post may seem like I’m gushing over Gabriel, but he really is a miracle worker. I’ve had acupuncture now from several other practitioners and really do appreciate his relaxed demeanor, the knowledge that he shares easily, and constant calm and openness. Whether you’ll local to NYC or elsewhere, the benefits of acupuncture are truly amazing. The clear and direct link between our physical and emotional wellbeing are so intricately entwined that it is vital to care for both. Especially during this wild year when we are under constant daily stresses (micro and macro), it’s so necessary to take care, truly take care. 

Please read on to hear more about acupuncture an its benefits from Gabriel himself.

What is acupuncture? 

Acupuncture is the practice of inserting thin needles along twelve meridians (which are channels or streams of energy) in the body.  A good analogy is that of a river and dam.  Needles work as if releasing a dam by breaking open stagnant Qi in the body and allowing blood and energy to flow freely. The goal of Chinese medicine is to move and circulate blood and energy, as stagnation can bring pain and disease.

What inspired you to become an acupuncturist? How long have you been practicing? 

When I was a child my mother suffered from horrible migraine headaches.  Western medicine didn’t help her and I saw firsthand the negative effects that overuse of pharmaceuticals can have on the body and mind.  I was always trying to find new ways to help my mother with her pain.  Eventually, a friend recommended acupuncture which he said could help and had no side effects. Once my mother committed to three treatments three times a week she began to feel better.  Her mood improved and her stress and headaches began to subside. It was amazing to me, and from that point on I decided that I wanted to pursue acupuncture as a career.   I’ve been practicing acupuncture for over 20 years.

Any conditions you consider your specialties? 

I have always felt that while Chinese medicine can help with almost any health issue, it has the most success in treating issues relating to gynecology, gastroenterology, dermatology, pain and stress management.

How does emotional stress impact our physical wellbeing? How can acupuncture help? 

I believe that stress and anxiety attack the weakest parts of our bodies. For instance, if you often suffer from back pain and you are stressed and anxious, your back pain will increase exponentially.  This has never been clearer to me than during the Covid pandemic, where most everyone is anxious and suffering physical and/or emotional pain.

What can/ cannot be treated (in regards to emotions)? 

Acupuncture is amazing for treating emotional health issues. Acupuncture is extremely effective at calming the system, rebalancing emotions, and decreasing tension throughout the body.

Is there a time when acupuncture is not recommended? 

I think acupuncture can help at any time!  For acute conditions, I like to see people a couple of times a week, but otherwise, the frequency of treatments can be less, perhaps once a week to manage a condition or to keep the body in good balance even if you are feeling well.

Any acupressure points for stress you can do on yourself?

Yes!  For calming the spirit I love point Yin Tang, which is on the forehead in the midpoint between the eyebrows, as well as He Gu, which is right at the crease between the thumb and finger.  These points are great for calming the spirit, relaxing the mind, and moving stagnant energy in the body.

How long do benefits last? 

It really depends. For some conditions, acupuncture can last a long time. The body always needs to stay in balance.  Environmental stress from work, family, etc. can throw off the body’s equilibrium.  Acupuncture can help restore this imbalance.

To find Gabriel please check out his website, IG and Facebook. 

T 212.473.3750 E gabrielsher@yahoo.com